With the arrival of Summer, my hope is to be intentional in creating memories with my daughter. I remember as a kid myself, the excitement surrounding summer breaks, a break from school and sunny opportunities! My parents worked year-round, and although we didn't spend every moment together, I remember they made the most of it. I still remember our weekend trips to the beach, dinners outside, and movie nights. I hope to make these lasting impressions for my daughter. Despite our busy schedules, I am determined to be intentional in carving out quality time full of meaningful interactions, shared adventures, and simple pleasures that will hopefully leave a lasting impact. As she gets older, there are more opportunities for fun, like playing with bubbles outside, having picnics, going to the park. These simple activities provide me with an opportunity to spend quality time, have meaningful conversations and give that undivided attention to her to ensure we make the most of our summer together!
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Dear Yesenia,
My four and seven year old are so excited that school is out for the summer. I’m also glad to have a break from the daily school schedule. However, I work full-time, so my kids have to go to day camps or child care. They usually have fun the first few weeks of summer “vacation,” but then they complain about having to go somewhere every day. It’s stressful, but I don’t feel comfortable leaving them home alone, and I don’t have time to arrange a summer full of play dates. What can I do to minimize their complaints and still make summer fun for them?
- Sofia
Dear Sofia,
Great question! Although many people look forward to summer vacation all year long, coordinating children’s summertime schedules can be quite challenging. It can be particularly hard for adults who need full-time, affordable, fun, and safe activities for their children, so they can continue to work. Here are some tips for adding fun and variety to your kids’ summertime schedules:
Adapt your children’s daily routines to reflect the summertime schedule. Maintaining consistency in morning, mealtime and bedtime routines will make it easier to get everyone – including you – where they need to be each day. For instance, having a regular bedtime will help make sure your kids get enough sleep so they are rested and ready for the next day’s activities. At the same time, small changes to your children’s daily routines can make the summertime schedule feel special and different from the school year. Look for opportunities to make minor changes that won’t be too disruptive, like letting them stay up or sleep in later, or picking them up early from camps or child care occasionally.
Take time to reconnect each day. During the school year, homework, schedules, and deadlines often dominate the conversations between parents and children, and it can become stressful. The summer break provides a great chance for everyone to slow down and spend some quality time together, even if it’s for a short amount of time at the end of the day. The simplest ideas are often the best, like having a picnic for dinner, watching the stars come out, playing games, reading books or watching movies together. This will give your kids something to look forward to after being away at camps or child care.
Create a family “bucket list.” Ask your children to think of free or low-cost activities they would like to do as a family. Write down the ideas you’re willing to do or pay for. At the beginning of each week, have your kids pick one activity from the bucket list to do later that week or weekend. Throughout the week, talk with your kids about where, when and how you’ll do the activity. If you have a camera, take photos or videos of yourselves during each activity, then talk about them afterward and relive the memories. Talking together and providing engaging activities are positive parenting strategies that strengthen family relationships and will help focus your kids’ attention on things they’re looking forward to instead of complaints.
Final Thoughts: Summertime is meant to be fun and relaxing, yet patching together safe, engaging activities for the entire summer can become another full-time job. A few positive parenting strategies can make summer a fun experience for kids, while minimizing stress for parents and caregivers.
Yesenia Gomez-Carrillo is the mother of a 2-year-old daughter and the Triple P Program Manager for First 5 Santa Cruz County. Scientifically proven, Triple P is made available locally by First 5, the Santa Cruz County Health Services Agency, and the Santa Cruz County Human Services Department. To find a Triple P parenting class or practitioner, visit http://triplep.first5scc.org, http://www.facebook.com/triplepscc, or contact First 5 Santa Cruz County at 465-2217 or triplep@first5scc.org.